Monday, June 13, 2005 - 7:17 AM CDT

I think you were totally out of line on that one. I mean how would you react if someone told you that AFTER you all had slept together...even if you were protected it is still a choice that your partner should be able to make.
It is especially dangerous if he is the bottom...If he was aware...there could have been more pre-caution and more of a bond because you all are both aware. And then to get mad at him...Let him adjust to it first because I think he acted pretty rational because there are alot of dudes out here that would have either hurt you emotionally or been even more extreme and hurt you physically.
Be careful man, it is a crime to not let someone know and if the condom had broke you could be talking to us from jail right now...so PLEASE let these dudes know first.
If they don't wanna be bothered after you tell them...then fuck it...it is plenty of decent guys out there who will be with you. And if you're too weary of telling them, then it isn't the right time to be sleeping with them.

PS...Reale is a big dude so you need to thank God that he didn't get violent with you

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Monday, June 13, 2005 - 9:28 AM CDT

graeeye -

Let us not forget that I did tell him as soon as possible after I found out. You can't tell somebody something that you don't know for sure! My mother told me a long time ago, "if you assume, you make an ass out of yourself." Besides, I absolutely did NOT want to assume on that one.

It is only a crime if you have intercourse with an individual AND YOU KNEW. If you DID NOT know, then obviously it is not a crime. It is an assumption.

Furthermore, as far as the "mad" situation was, I'm mad at him because HE LIED. A lie is a lie, no matter what it is about. How would you feel if your other half lied to you about something - ANYTHING?

I'm not snapping on you, I'm just keeping it real.

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Monday, June 13, 2005 - 9:44 AM CDT

Well, I guess you've heard from Grandmomma Graeeye - lol...anyway, nah - you weren't wrong Tim. What I would say is this: Re'ale is young...pretty young in comparison to you, so there's just some things that he will react differently to just because of his age. So, where you don't see it as being an issue, he will. Now granted, it's evident that he wanted to be mature about the situation when you told him...based on the text messages and the telephone conversation when he said "I am not going any where." I mean,hell - that's admirable. But I think age has a huge deal with this as well.

Anyway, you're right. The boy did lie - regardless. You should have checked him on that. But, based on the lie - you should have "worked it out" to an understanding. I mean, maybe Re'ale was scared, which is why he went to get tested. He didn't wanna hurt your feelings, so he lied about it. It was a horrible lie...I mean come on - helping his aunt with homework and he'd be done in 3 minutes...geesh. My little sister could have come up with something better than that.

Anyway, he's not ready. And he's about to go off to school. That's tempting within its self. Well, maybe he is ready. Who knows? But you threw a lot on him and because it's evident he doesn't think or process information the same way you do, well, who knows where the future lies.

I would say this...a good lesson has been learned. Don't EVER move too fast. I'm talking about take it slow as hell - that's what Rev. Dr. Bishop John Legend said - we're all just oridnary people, we don't know which way to go. How long have you known Re'ale? I don't think it's been more than a full month, right? And already you're in a committed relationship? And he's graduating from high school or something like that? You're well established. Weigh it out.

Sorry for the sermon - the doors of the church are open..."now may the Lord bless you and keep and cause his face to shine upon thee and be gracious to thee, to the only wise God I know, hence forth and forever...and all God's children sang AAAAAAAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMEEEEEEEEENNNNNN!!!!

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Monday, June 13, 2005 - 9:57 AM CDT

I guess you can tell I have no work to do today lol...

I'm glad you agree with me, and I have to admit that you're right. One month is not long enough to be in a committed relationship; I guess I just got caught up in the moment. That's why I told him yesterday that we were going to go back to dating.

I know he's getting ready to go to school (an hour away, nonetheless) and I KNOW that there will be temptations. Even though I have a car, I ain't gonna be up to driving an hour each way every time he (or I) get horny...Taz (my car) ain't having that!

So I knew that us either taking a time out of slowing down was going to happen. I just wish it wasn't because of this.

Amen!

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Monday, June 13, 2005 - 10:05 AM CDT

Yea, I totally understand - and you shouldn't have to drive an hour away - that's complete foolishness. Tim, come now...Taz?

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Monday, June 13, 2005 - 10:15 AM CDT

OK so I have a car named Taz...for the Tazmanian Devil. My goodness, didn't you watch Looney Toons when you were growing up? LOL

One of these days we need to have an actual PHONE convo...LOL

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Monday, June 13, 2005 - 10:45 AM CDT

Yea, I watched Looney Toons - who didn't. I'd be there pasted to channel 7 at 10 AM...ready and waiting. Not only that, but I used to be in love Tiny Toons. (We're tiny, we're toony, we're all a little looney and in this cartoony we're invading your TV)

Don't tell me THAT wasn't the shit!

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Monday, June 13, 2005 - 11:00 AM CDT

Churchboy, what is your e-mail address? Please leave a comment and put your e-mail address in the E-mail field; it won't show up to anybody else.

This way I can e-mail you from work!

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Monday, June 13, 2005 - 11:16 AM CDT

Churchboy, I got your e-mail address. I'm going to delete your comment but save your e-mail address. Talk to you shortly. :)

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